I wrote this mostly with academic lead investigators in mind, but communication and empathy are key to any enterprise, so I hope you find this post useful regardless of where you are coming from.
When I think of a good mentor, I imagine someone who is accessible and amiable. A good mentor should have good communication skills, empathy, and flexibility. At the same time, a good mentor will reasonably hold the students accountable to a justifiable standard while giving them enough room to grow freely as their abilities allow.
It’s easier to walk a mile in the shoes of your trainees since you were there not too long ago. The long hours, the ludicrously high rate of failure, the stress of trying to find funding while working towards that big publication and thesis—all of that is intimately familiar. It’s almost a huge set of experiences you would not wish upon anyone, even if it does “build character”! Unfortunately, that is the system we work with, and aspiring scientists must suffer through some form of it to get that PhD. So how would you go about making life more bearable for those who look to you for guidance?
You will find your own groove with the folks who choose to work with you, but I think the best thing you can do is to set reasonable standards, understand that your trainees have needs in balancing their research work and their lives, and to be a friendly advocate and a good listener when they need it. It might be a good idea to buy the lab some beer and a meal here and there, too!
In addition to your responsibilities to teach certain courses if you are in academia, you are responsible for training your crew in how to be a good scientist and solve problems. This necessitates effective communication skills, which doesn’t just involve telling someone how to do something, but also how you deliver the message and how you help them start learning to think for themselves so that someday, they won’t need you anymore (but they’ll hopefully call and say hello).
At the same time, because you’re now at that slope in the Dunning-Kruger curve that comes with the experience of knowing you don’t know everything, you can also admire that someone can and will bring in new skills and knowledge to supplement your own. Fostering a collaborative and positive teaching environment is beneficial to the collective. Along with the new skills and knowledge, the doctrines of mutual respect plus the love of teaching will also pass on to new labs and organizations as folks come and go.
Graduate student stipends and postdoc salaries are capped (perhaps unfairly, and unfortunately there’s not much you can do about it for now), so they are going to try to finish their work and get to their next destination as quickly as possible. With the evolving job market and the ivory tower of academia losing some of its shine, you’ve had to overcome numerous obstacles to recruit and ensure your qualified trainees that they can expect a reasonable time frame. Before we even get into your budget (with funding opportunities scarce and the cost of research rising), you want to sustain your lab community’s passion for science and to help them persist, particularly those who weren’t born with a silver spoon. Having established good habits and developed rapport with your staff as we discussed above, let’s now work on making sure the projects can get done, while keeping the passion for discovery alive, with time and funding to spare.
With many different personalities and styles milling about, time management is key, and the monumental challenge lies in organizing schedules and collaborations while respecting work-life balance and maintaining reasonable workloads. But if you invest the time to get to know and value the people in your care, the work will take care of itself because the people are already taken care of. It’s a lot easier to get people to buy in to your system if they already like you!
As you are aware, the road from matriculation to the successful thesis defense is a long and arduous path, fraught with peril and obstacles (almost like a Dungeons and Dragons campaign, but probably slightly less fun with much higher stakes). Because your trainees are obviously highly skilled and intelligent people, and they are motivated to generate scientific discoveries for the benefit of all humanity, one of the things you need to do is to provide a positive working environment and maintain that level of motivation.
It is true that the PhD process is full of positives in terms of skills acquisition, collaboration, and the immersion into knowledge. However, the artificially capped pay (even with most PhD bioscience programs having fully funded tuition) can make it stressful for your trainees, and the existing training structure (I went through it too!) is a huge source of the negativity that you might notice on social media from graduate students and postdocs. You may not have direct say in improving compensation, but you can impact their experiences while working with you, and perhaps one day, that will contribute to a systemic overhaul that enhances the PhD experience for the better. People work better when they're not miserable, and are more likely to persist through to graduation if they can feel rewarded more often than not, even in the face of experimental failures. That is something you definitely can control!
We found this Twitter thread (about how to adjust your life as a new mentor so you can become a great mentor) super-helpful as well if you wish to check it out:
Best of luck in your research goals, and best wishes for you and everybody working with you!